If someone is getting ready for competition and you are not interesting rolling that hard, you just shouldn't roll with them. Everyone has different goals - they're not wrong, and you're not wrong.

In-person coaching would be best, but if there's nothing near you, obviously that's not going to work. Online coaching will help because an experienced coach will be able to know when to make changes and account for your sports needs. I'd go direct to here. There are plenty of coaches with martial arts experience who can help you.