Married People With Kids And Training

[michael dowling]

How do you train with any consistency?

For me I go to the gym 3-4 hours a week and it amazes how seemingly everything anyone has to do ever, literally every event, activity, appointment gets scheduled within that 3-4 hour time-span each week. There are 168 hours in a week, my gym time takes up 1.78% of the week yet 100% of BS is scheduled within that 1.78% window.

I would say in a month assuming 12-14 training sessions I am forced to cancel and/or move 7 of those for various reasons, mainly some BS the kids have to do and no one told me until the last minute.

I've even offered to get up early or go during lunch simply tell me ahead of time, but still no cooperation at all, I'm always told 15 minutes before I'm about to walk out the door. How the fuck do any of you guys/gals train with any consistency when you are dealing with life, work, wife, kids etc...? I have not figured out how to do it.

[Steve Berryman]

you have to establish early on that you mean business, and you can't let everyone just walk all over you

but seriously, if this is just an issue of your family not telling you stuff until it's too late, do something about it -- make them miss whatever it is (if it's not really important)

it just sounds like you're a push-over and they don't respect you enough


i don't understand why people let themselves get into situations like this

[snyderman3000]

you have to establish early on that you mean business, and you can't let everyone just walk all over you

but seriously, if this is just an issue of your family not telling you stuff until it's too late, do something about it -- make them miss whatever it is (if it's not really important)

it just sounds like you're a push-over and they don't respect you enough


i don't understand why people let themselves get into situations like this

Spoken like a true single man.

[Steve Berryman]

i operated the same way with a woman and two children living with me

[hamburgerfan]

You could always just skip town.

[mwhities]

I have a full time job, part time side job, wife, two very active children (2yo and 5yo), and workout out three days a week. I quit playing online games and other shit I didn't need. I changed my priorities. Family, job, then working out.

No more staying up late and doing frivolous shit I don't need.

Mostly time management.

[michael dowling]

you have to establish early on that you mean business, and you can't let everyone just walk all over you

but seriously, if this is just an issue of your family not telling you stuff until it's too late, do something about it -- make them miss whatever it is (if it's not really important)

it just sounds like you're a push-over and they don't respect you enough


i don't understand why people let themselves get into situations like this

Ok let me rephrase how do I get the family to prioritize my training without acting like an overbearing dickwad? I'm sure after the divorce and the kids hating me I would have all the time in the world to lift, but I prefer to keep the wife and kids happy and not spitefully make them miss stuff that is important to them or yell at them...

[JM3]

Ok let me rephrase how do I get the family to prioritize my training without acting like an overbearing dickwad?.

I dont think you can do this and be true to the real micheal dowling.

[JM3]

i operated the same way with a woman and two children living with me

I love that this is in the past tense....

[michael dowling]

I dont think you can do this and be true to the real micheal dowling.

Dude you don't even know me...

This isn't E&P it's a serious training question and I know we have quite a lot of married dudes with kids in here.

Mwhities thanks for the serious reply.