Furtive glances

[Danool]

Rip,

Despite loving and being infinitely attracted to my girlfriend, I find my eyes reflexively drawn to any any female passer by that is half decent or above. At 2 points during the lunar cycle this causes friction in my relationship. I swear these are short glances, though my beloved would argue otherwise.
How do I explain to her that these involuntary glimpses are of no threat to her and are just what men do?

[Mark Rippetoe]

We haven't known each other long enough for me to explain this to you. Or her.

[Mark E. Hurling]

Rip,

Despite loving and being infinitely attracted to my girlfriend, I find my eyes reflexively drawn to any any female passer by that is half decent or above. At 2 points during the lunar cycle this causes friction in my relationship. I swear these are short glances, though my beloved would argue otherwise.
How do I explain to her that these involuntary glimpses are of no threat to her and are just what men do?

This is more about her than anything you can do to alter her perception of it.

I've been married to the same woman for nearly 40 years. She has always said that she doesn't mind where I get my appetite as long as I come home to satisfy it.

[Brodie Butland]

Oh FFS. You're a guy. Guys are visual. They like to look at things, especially things that they find attractive. Every guy--even the most committed life partner of all time--does this, whether they are honest enough to admit or not. Have you ever cheated on your gf? Any close calls due to your brief wandering eye? No? Then what's the problem?

Either that, or time to find a new girlfriend who doesn't insist on keeping your balls in a mason jar under the sink for the privilege of sleeping with her. Irrational jealousy invariably destroys relationships at some point--might as well get out before you have to give her half your shit.

Source: Happily married for over 5 years.

[shib]

Rip,

Despite loving and being infinitely attracted to my girlfriend, I find my eyes reflexively drawn to any any female passer by that is half decent or above. At 2 points during the lunar cycle this causes friction in my relationship. I swear these are short glances, though my beloved would argue otherwise.
How do I explain to her that these involuntary glimpses are of no threat to her and are just what men do?

I think escalating this is the right course of action.

Cat-calling, whistling, licking your lips, being liberal with crotch motions, etc.

I've found that nothing works better than being juvenile when it comes to emotional issues.

[David A. Rowe]

Strength, training and our growing understanding of the two have irreversibly changed our marriage of 9 years. 99% of our observations conclude with, "she looks like she needs more chicken, biscuits and heavy squats."

[VNV]

People can change, but you can't change people.

And it pays to be picky.

[Pluripotent]

I just tell her, "honey, I love you, but...dat ass!"

I think on some level they get that if you were so milquetoast that you never even looked, they might not find you that attractive, either.

[Kelli Nielson]

No amount of you explaining anything is going to assuage her - it's her own insecure malfunction.

....Good luck with that.

[Danool]

Oh FFS. You're a guy. Guys are visual. They like to look at things, especially things that they find attractive. Every guy--even the most committed life partner of all time--does this, whether they are honest enough to admit or not. Have you ever cheated on your gf? Any close calls due to your brief wandering eye? No? Then what's the problem?

Either that, or time to find a new girlfriend who doesn't insist on keeping your balls in a mason jar under the sink for the privilege of sleeping with her. Irrational jealousy invariably destroys relationships at some point--might as well get out before you have to give her half your shit.

Source: Happily married for over 5 years.

I'll provide more detail before anyone else gets triggered. This only occurs on only 2 days of the lunar cycle - the first and last days of her period, when her specific hormonal marinade predisposes her to craziness. Nothing gets thrown, she just gets angry if we wander around a shopping centre long enough. Apologies are always forthcoming soon afterwards and on all other day she is the benchmark of rationality and relationship bliss. So its not really a problem for me and I won't be terminating with extreme prejudice, and I'm not going to stop looking or admitting to it.

What I was hoping for was for someone with a PhD in manliness to describe the phenomenon itself though in a way that makes sense to a rational woman because all I've got is "duhhhh it's just wut guys do".