You are a perfect candidate for lifting shoes. Everything I’m about to type would be easier to deal with in lifting shoes. Plus they’re just awesome.
You also have a tendency to do the same thing I used to do - overextend your back on the descent. You want to work on getting tight like you do and keep your back absolutely rigid, then break at the hips and knees at the same time, bending at the waist. It’s going to feel simply like you are bending over while letting your knees travel forward. This is going to help the second thing - getting your knees set sooner. Right now they are set at the very bottom of the movement, ideally you want them set 2/3 of the way down. Use the weight staying over the middle of the foot as your guide. Break both at the same time and I think you’ll be good.