Originally Posted by
Vale
I'm looking forward to following your wife's progress, because I'm an "older" (i.e. worrying about things like osteoporosis! I'm 48) female beginner with similar goals and height, although I'm heavier.
I had to shop around with for a gym, and chose one that had a power rack. That's where we do our deadlifts. We don't drop the weights, but just put them back down after a deadlift, and it doesn't seem to be a problem. Like you, I find it more difficult to get form right when putting the bar down rather than picking it up. One thing I found that helped a lot was to stop trying to do it quietly! (It meant I was doing it too slowly, particularly the bottom). There's always somebody in the gym making more noise than us!
I've had some great advice on this forum. Good luck to both of you. I hope you enjoy it!